Saudi Stories

Peaceful Thoughts of a Saudi Woman

As I was watching the news yesterday, my heart just kept dropping. This new attacks on Yemen and the pictures of the dead children just made me want to migrate to another planet all together. These pictures are starting to be normal and looking at them daily just makes the heart and the brain numb. Children and adults are getting brutally murdered like they are livestock on a daily/weekly basis in many parts of the world. In Palestine, Lebanon, Syria, Iraq, Afghanistan, Pakistan and now more so in Yemen. These past few years have been really strange. This Arab Spring had some good impact for sure because power should always be in the people's hands, but now things are going out of control. I have very strong Political opinions that I do not share because they just lead to arguments and pointless discussions, but today I wanted to say one thing: war should never be considered. They just cause destruction and bring devastating results. 

We are all grownups and we can have a logical discussion. We do not live in the middle ages, where a show of power is needed. History has been the biggest proof that wars, occupations and invasions only lead to destruction of civilisations and draining of resources.  Wars are just the easy way out. It is much easier to kill a threat than to deal with him. Wars cost money and million of innocent lives. Here are some examples of where War money could go or how it could be used in better purposes. 

1- The money could be used to end world hunger and to provide clean water for everyone. 

2- The money could be used to provide education and health for everyone.  

3- The money could go towards scientific research of outer space and how humanity could expand and go there. 

4- The money could go towards alternative energies for a better, greener planet.

5- The money could go towards uniting humanity because race, religion and language are there for all humans to be supportive of one another not the opposite.        

I pray for peace amongst all humans. My thoughts and good vibes is with everyone struggling through war or of the war aftermath. 

Saudi Beauty Standards

Yesterday, I spent three painful hours in a laser hair removal appointment at the local clinic. Through the burning sensation, the irritated skin and the gushes of cold air, I realised that women have to endure so much! Forget all the cultural baggage and the social issues and let's focus on how much physical pain Saudi ladies -all ladies worldwide in fact- need to go through to be "pretty." Saudi is no different from the UK, the US and the rest of the countries, where the majority have the weirdest sense of beauty. Saudi ladies are undergoing lots of media pressure as well. I think impossible beauty standards are a universal problem. Most people here -men and women- are obsessed with Kim Kardashian, Haifa Wehbe, Nancy Ajram, Myriam Fares and few others and their hard to achieve physique. 

You might think Saudi women are just covered and are not concerned about any of that, but you are mistaken. The covering part is only outside when the ladies are on the streets, but indoors, where non related men are not present, those ladies wear whatever they please. A Saudi woman wants to look fabulous for herself first and for most then she wants to impress her friends, relatives and future suiters like every other girl in the world. 

There is a pressure for a certain type of body like the ones above, skinny with a flat tummy and curves all at the same time, skin that is flawless, hairless, soft as baby's butt and a long luscious *preferably* straight hair. Not to mention the face's features as well, where a small, skinny nose, high cheekbones and full lips are preferred. You see how hard women have it. Obviously not everyone can achieve all of that, so everyone here has gone for the hairless smooth skin, straight hair, contoured face option and even then it is still hard. Wanting to be pretty is every girl's dream including Saudi girls.          

It's a whole package that women want to achieve because that is what the media feed them. I am not above it all and I am as pressured by the media as anyone else. There was a time of my life where I was in complete content with everything I was, but everyone around me at that time saw differently. Sometimes people think they are being helpful when they make comments on someone's hair and body. It didn't take me long to go to that insecure place that I am trying so hard to take myself out of.  

Of course having a wonderful personality and other good characteristics is crucial, but having the look helps the confidence go a long way. Hopefully, we will be able to focus on the inner beauty as much as we care about the outer.    

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Saudis & Michelle Obama

With the death of King Abdullah –RIP- many royalties, presidents and important people came to mourn the king and attend his funeral. From those people who showed up were the Obamas and man oh man the news just went crazy. The past two days I read more article about Michael Obama and her “stand” to keep her head uncovered than about the king’s death. It was really funny to see how people reacted to the way she chose to dress in the Kingdom. The funniest part was reading about that "imaginary" outrage Saudis felt towards the matter. I did not even realise it was a big deal and I am Saudi! The amount of articles that made her sound like a heroine for standing up there without a headscarf were really weird. The tweets were even weirder especially the ones about equality. The media really made it sound like she liberated the “poor oppressed Saudi women.” 

Do not get me wrong. I loved what the first lady was wearing and I really want that outfit by the way my only objection was how the media made it all sound, which is another sign why we shouldn’t follow media blindly because they found a whole propaganda out of nothing because Saudis truly did not care. No Saudi I knew had anything negative nor positive to say about it . In fact, 99% of Saudi were too busy wondering if they are going to get two salaries as a gift from the new king than anything else. The normal Saudi man and woman were indiffrent to the whole thing. Saudis did not even notice it as something weird because news flash she was not the only one without a headscarf there -notice the other lady in the photo above- and nor the first. Let's take a look down memory lane for a second. 

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Saudi King With Clinton
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Yes it surly happened previously, lots of times and it was never a "thing" to speak of. The whole topic is extremely pointless. 

Which brings me to the whole messed up view of the headscarf. Part of me doesn’t even believe that I am posting about this discussion. This topic should have been resolved years ago under “people are free to wear whatever they want within reason” and one fabric placed on the head or the lack of is seriously not that big of a deal for anyone to get outraged about. We have more important matters to attend to, say world peace for example? 

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RIP King Abdullah

Hi everyone!

Hope you all had a great start of the week yesterday. It has been a sad start of the week here in Saudi. Our beloved King, King Abdullah Al Sa'oud, just passed away on Friday the 23rd and broke our hearts. I was planning another Saudi Story for this week, but this tragic event needed a special post. 

I remember King Abdullah -May his soul rest in peace- and his ruling period very clearly. It all happened right after I finished my final exams in high school. At that time, we were mourning his older brother, the previous King,  King Fahad. Nonetheless, King Abdullah came and replaced that sadness with lots of joy with all the goodness that he spread in Saudi. There are three main achievements I would like to mention below: the scholarship program, the new university and the recognition of women's political role.  

He made so many positive changes starting with the scholarship program that completely changed my life and the lives of so many others without this opportunity that King Abdullah presented me with, I would not have been where I am today. Since the start of the program ten years ago, there have been more than 150 thousand female and male students studying abroad across 30 countries (البوابة الإلكترونية لوزارة التعليم العالي, 2015).

The king also saw the importance of having more universities within Saudi and he made it happen in such a short time with King Abdullah University of Science and Technology.  It has even been rewarded a research centre status in 2013.

In 2013, King Abdullah also included women to participate in The Consultative -Shura- Council for the first time in the Kingdom's history, where he chose 30 ladies and changed the architecture of that council to have 20% women (الحناكي, 2013).  

RIP King Abdullah

We are sad to see such a visionary leave us after only a short ruling period, but we are also excited to welcome King Salman to the throne and to witness all the amazing things he has planned for the kingdom. 

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If you are interested to know more on the official country's history and more details about the previous kings and their accomplishments, please go on the Saudi Tourism website

Resources: 
  • البوابة الإلكترونية لوزارة التعليم العالي, (2015). وزارة التعليم العالي. [online] Available at: http://www.mohe.gov.sa/ar/news/Pages/25_1_2014.aspx [Accessed 27 Jan. 2015].
  • الحناكي, أ. (2013). عضوات مجلس الشورى والنجاح المذهل! | المجلة. [online] Majalla.com. Available at: http://www.majalla.com/arb/2013/10/article55248402 [Accessed 27 Jan. 2015].

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Part 2: Saudis Vs. Golden Nationals- Education

Happy Saturday 

Last week I compared work opportunities for Saudis and foreigners (specifically native English speakers who I referred to as the golden nationals ) full post here.

This week, I want to share another comparison between Saudi nationals and the "golden" nationals, but this time, the topic is about education and the accepted level for both in jobs. 

When Saudis apply for jobs, their credentials go through excruciating process, where the university, degree and grades get checked. There is a lot of criticism on Saudis, the lack of their skills and experience. Those critiques lack a realistic look at the Saudi education regulations. The universities in Saudi are limited and in the past years finding a place in a public one has been increasingly difficult. A lot of Saudi students went to private colleges and universities within Saudi and the gulf. In 2005, the scholarship program started and provided so many opportunities.

Jobs in Saudi

Below are the main checks a Saudi applicant has to go through to get a job at the public sector. For private sectors these could be different. I had to keep all these points in mind after I graduated high school. 

1- Accredited University 

If a saudi wants to study abroad, she either needs a scholarship from the government or her place of work. Otherwise, she needs a permission to be funded privately. The  university has to be approved and accredited by the Ministry of Higher Education. Also, the student has to go to the main university's campus and not a branch. For example, the university I went to for my MA, Middlesex University, has a branch in Dubai, but the main campus is in London. So, I can only study in the London one for my degree to be approved by the ministry of higher education. 

2- Mode of Attendance

The only accepted mode of attendance is full time and in person. Even if the university's program is relaxed and gives the students time off, the students have to be there. Some universities and colleges in Saudi do part time like the Open University or the brand new Electronic University, but even then this might not be accepted. For instance, my mother went did her BA part time in another city, but when she applied to work at Aramco, her application was rejected because of that fact. Keep in mind her MA was full time.  

Note: Saudi females have it really hard. Almost every female I know want to further her education and get the highest levels of education, but sometimes they do not get accepted at a local university and their male guardians do not give them permission to leave the country. The part time and the long distance option will be very suitable for them, but since the government and most private sectors don't accept such degrees, they don't bother because what's the point of a degree that would lead to no where?! If this is not considered we will have more educated Saudis. 

3- Relevant Degrees 

This is one of the main conditions for most jobs. The relevance of the degree. Meaning, the undergraduate and the postgraduate have to be the same exact filed of study. If you start with an interior design degree you have to continue with a design degree. Some students switched their majors in their masters and when they graduated, they didn't get hired because their degrees weren't related to each other or different. It is actually great to have a mix of degrees from different areas because choosing just ONE area of study and sticking to it is a huge commitment and as people grow their interests change.   

4- High Grades 

Grades are essential in Saudi and the Gulf countries in general. High grades need to be consistent and not only high in the last received degree. I graduated with a 70% in the UK, which equals a first, which means an A/Excellent in normal countries *Mashallah* but it was hard convincing people in Saudi that I was an excellent student because in their books everything below 90% is really bad. 

Meanwhile, golden nationals can have degrees from any universities with part time/ long distance degrees who could be irrelevant to what they teach, but that's ok! For instance, I had an acquaintance who had a psychology degree topped with CELTA, Certificate in English Language Teaching to Adults. He got a top English teaching job in a Saudi university with an amazing pay. The same pay Saudis get with a masters degree in English. I also met few other ladies teaching English in the foundation year in a private university in the Eastern Province, where the teachers have Art Bachelors topped with TESOL, Teaching English to Speakers of Other Languages. These are only few examples of the many English teachers out in Saudi that are approved without their universities, mode of attendance, relevant degrees and grades getting checked. 

It will be great if the same scrutiny is applied to any applicants from all nationalities or if that scrutiny is taken out all together to check the individuals skills and abilities.  

Note: I am positive & accepting towards everyone from all colours, genders, religions, backgrounds and nationalities. This post is about the current reality in Saudi.

Feel free to share your thoughts *positively* in the comments. 

Part 1: Saudis Vs. Golden Nationals- WORK

Happy Saturday world! 

I think Saturdays are perfect for the Saudi Stories section because it's the weekend in Saudi and the world! Since Saudi's weekend starts Thursday night instead of Friday night it ends Saturday instead of Sunday. I am just hoping more people will get to see these stories. 

my lovely green passport mashallah

my lovely green passport mashallah

I recently graduated from London and received my master's degree in Interior Architecture *mashallah* yay? meh. I just got back to Saudi last week. From the moment I stepped into my dad's car, he started asking me about my plans next. After meeting my dad, I met another bunch of family members and friends who echoed the same questions. That question led to many conversations, especially with relatives who recently graduated with masters/PhDs from British/American universities. All conversations revolved around one thing, the lack of opportunities for Saudis and the seemingly great opportunities for the "golden nationals". The golden nationals are Americans, British, Canadians, Australians AKA Native English speakers. That phrase alone gets you the job whatever that job is. Even if the language isn't required.  

For instance, my friend and her husband both graduated from a top British university in a specialised biology field with a PhD *mashAllah*. The field is very much needed in Saudi universities, but they have been struggling for nearly a year now to find ANY job in Saudi and the gulf. Few months ago, my cousin finally got a job at a private medical college in the Eastern Province, but it was about two hours drive from where she lives. She asked for housing in the college teachers' compound, but her request was denied because she is Saudi. She also got denied health insurance and maternity benefits because as a Saudi she should be included in her husband's health insurance. The thing is, her husband is still in the search for a job. It all doesn't make sense. Keep in mind, the golden nationals get a higher salary -in their higher currency-  than hers with less degrees plus housing, health insurance & maternity. I am not sure how that's fair. 

Also, I personally experienced the same thing. When I graduated with a Bachelor of Arts in Interior Design, I got two offers from Saudi private universities in Jeddah that are located in the Western Province. That's a two-hour plane ride from where I am from. My first question was about housing and if it will be included in my hiring package. I got laughed at and ignored. They were like "but you are Saudi, we don't provide housing". That's true I am Saudi! and housing should be provided for me, especially that I am coming from the opposite side of the country. I ended up rejecting the offers. Meanwhile, the golden nationals and other non saudi teachers, were given a good salary - again in their own higher currency- plus housing and other benefits.  

These are only few examples. There are many more similar cases. I think it's great that those people are welcomed in Saudi and given cool opportunities, but it will be even greater if jobs are given based on the individual skills, relevant degrees and work experience to holders of ANY nationality.    

Note: I am positive & accepting towards everyone from all colours, genders, religions, backgrounds and nationalities. This post is about the current reality in Saudi.

Disclaimer: The Saudi government is trying to regulate these issues with new work laws and Saudization, but private sectors are taking their time to implement it.  

Part 2 will be about the level of skill and the degrees of Saudis vs. golden nationals. 

Feel free to share your thoughts *positively* in the comments. 

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New Year in Saudi

My resolutions so far ;)

My resolutions so far ;)

Happy new year world! 2015 has arrived in full swing with all its glory. Last year had been very challenging, but it still had many high points. It was really interesting to read reflection posts from every one on Instagram and to see how each person experienced it in their own unique way. 

 >>I must say my highest points of 2014 were:

* Meeting new people off Instagram & becoming good friends with them. 

* Juicing  

* Experiencing London *mashAllah*  

* Learning more about Islamic Patterns

>>My lowest points:  

* A very hard personal experience 

* An awful time at Middlesex University

I am very thankful for both because those bad points really test us and show us how powerful we truly are. Now, I am really excited for a new year. Although, I am not going to rush with unrealistic plans. Instead, I am just going to wait for God to surprise me. May it be wonderful on all of us! :D  

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Ok,, Enough of that talk and let me tell you about how my celebration went world wide! Thank you SnapChat for your awesome live feeds that were so instant and fun! 

First it was Dubai & the snaps plus the TV live coverage were just SO AWESOME! Snaps below from my cousin who lives there :D

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Then London, Edinburgh & Rio followed 

Snap from my friend

Snap from my friend

From the SnapChat Live feed

From the SnapChat Live feed

From the SnapChat Live feed

From the SnapChat Live feed

Then the BIG New York ball drop, freezing people in time square and the amazing fireworks. 

From the SnapChat Live feed

From the SnapChat Live feed

Then, there were the SAUDI celebrations! 

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lol, they didn't exist. No idea if anything happened in the capital. The country is based on the Arabic/Hijri calendar anyway, so they new year for us was two months ago, but we didn't really have proper celebration or fireworks then either. It's a waste of money *or so we will tell ourselves to not feel left out lol ;)* New year's eve and day in both calendars are just regular days where everyone just carries on with their lives without any need for fuss. It's all very wise ;) 

note: This is a just fun post. I hope my Saudi friends don't take it personally or get offended. I just thought it was funny.

What were your highs & lows of 2014? feel free to share them in the comments! :)